Healing our emotional pain is in the telling of our stories. Vulnerability is necessary to be in healthy relationships. By being seen. There is no hiding out in the world today, if we want to have a meaningful impact in the world.
It’s interesting as I read the news, we talk about security breaches of technology as being a vulnerability. So there are a lot of negative meanings associated with vulnerability. We fear vulnerability. Yet to know another human deeply, vulnerability is necessary.
It’s not uncommon that I experience strong emotions of fear in myself. Today, I felt the fear of being rejected by my girlfriend. The emotion felt very heavy. So I had to pause and look at it from a different perspective.
I have learned that emotions want to move through us. So I got curious about my fear. I looked into my past and remembered when I was teased in school, shamed by friends, or rejected by women I liked. Looking at the root experiences allows my fears to move.
I realize that my younger self just wanted to belong. And I can have compassion for that boy now, and say “I love Michael.”
Brene Brown describes vulnerability as, “facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that you are enough.” I have learned to accept myself more everyday and yet I still have moments when I feel I’m not good enough. Who can relate?
I face uncertainties in my relationship, I expose my feelings to loved ones, and I take emotional risks like writing this letter. I know that I am enough.
When we feel stuck, we can shift our perspective by thinking about what is good in the world, everything we are grateful for today, and faith. This includes living a life out in the world that serves the greatest good, fulfilling my civic responsibilities, and acting with integrity.
We are on a lifelong journey that starts new every minute - enjoy the ride!